Cora had her costumes (ALL of them) taken away a few weeks ago due to her poor behavior at school. (Now, when I say poor behavior, it is generally just talking that gets her clip moved down the color chart from green to yellow to orange to red. But she talks OVER her teacher, interrupts lessons, and disrupts the class - especially her good friend, who sits next to her. And once she stuck her tongue out at her teacher after she had to get up and move her clip down - that was a red day. Anyway, while the sass is obviously not ok and not tolerated at home either, and the talking/disrupting is rude, it's not like she's being bad. Regardless, we had to come up with a punishment that she'd actually care about - so first went the Barbies, then the costumes. Stuffed animals were next on the list...)
When she brought home two purples in a row last week (Thursday and Friday) and followed that up with FOUR purples in a row this week (today was a yellow) day, we celebrated with ice cream and the return of her Barbies or costumes. She chose the costumes. And she went through 4 or 5 outfit changes before Jay was even home from work!

So, what brought on the change? Well, after an entire August of yellow, orange, and red marks (I think she had one green day...), and at least 5 or 6 different days of "parent contact", Jay and I were kind of tired of hearing about it. I know, I know. She's OUR kid and the teacher needs our help figuring out what makes her tick, but come on, she's 6-years-old and in your care during the day - how much can we really do from work (when we're supposed to be working)?! So in a bout of frustration, I told her teacher to just move her seat to the back of the room and make her sit by herself and see how she likes it (thinking she'd hate it and start following the rules so that she could move back up with her friends). Well guess what? She likes it at the back of the room. She sits right next to the TA's desk and she told me she wants to stay there all year. Since they get so very little social/group interaction during seatwork hours anyway, I'm fine with her staying back there. If she's happy, learning well, and coming home with "good" colors (ensuring that mama and daddy are no longer getting text messages multiple times/week), then she might as well stay put. Besides, she's making friends with her TA (Cora has made her a necklace and bracelet so far, which she was VERY proud to present to her), so at least she's sitting next to an ally ;-)