This morning we started the 3-day potty training method. Or what we've fondly been calling "Potty Training Bootcamp" (in our attempts to psych ourselves up for it). It was a rough day, I'll be honest. We started things off at 9:00am, after breakfast (and after Grandma left). We changed him into his undies, explained to him where his potty was and what it was for, then had him help us pack up all his diapers and take them up to Sissy's room, for the baby (since he is a big boy now). And then we started in with the reminders "Tell Mama and Daddy when you need to pee-pee" and "Keep your undies dry". We said one phrase or the other (or both) every 2-4 minutes ALL DAY LONG. After 12 hours of training, we had 15 accidents, 0 successes, and 0 naps. Here's the breakdown for those who are interested (and for my record-keeping, of course - kinda reminds me of James' first 2 weeks of life, when I had to record every nursing session, wet diaper, and bowel movement - ah, memories...)
09:00 AM We put him in undies
09:40 AM Peed behind the curtains in his bedroom (we should have known he was hiding for a reason)
10:05 AM Peed on the rug in front of the TV (this was the one time during the day when we got him to the potty fast enough for him to dribble a bit into the potty, so he got an M&M, even though he yelled "No potty!" and jumped up as quickly as he could manage with his undies around his ankles)
10:10 AM Watched the Dinosaur Train episode "Every Dinosaur Poops" and replayed the song at the end 3 times
10:30 AM Peed on the rug in the bathroom
10:50 AM Peed behind his train table (he said "pee" as he was doing it, so we were able to get him to the potty before he finished, but he still yelled "No potty!" and wouldn't go - at this point we draped the curtains up high and moved the train table so that he couldn't hide behind it anymore)
11:00 AM Peed in his closet (again with the hiding... if only we had locks for those closet doors!)
12:20 PM Peed on my computer chair (while I was sitting next to him, so I got soaked too)
01:30 PM Peed while sitting at his picnic table
01:35 PM Peed again at the picnic table (this was his first BIG accident of the day)
02:15 PM Peed at the kitchen table while sitting in his booster seat (another BIG accident)
02:17 PM Peed while standing in front of the aquarium
03:15 PM Peed in the hall (after a self-induced trip to the potty, in which no pee was deposited)
05:00 PM Peed in the sunroom (that was a LONG run to the potty, and another BIG accident, in which most of it ended up on Jay)
05:15 PM Pooped in the sunroom (he had been telling me "poop" and we tried the potty twice with no success, but as soon as we went back to the sunroom he walked away from me, then walked back over and said "sowwy", so I rushed him back to the potty - I followed the method and dumped his poop into his potty as I sat him down, and when he wouldn't go anymore, I cleaned him up and showed him his poop, then had him help me dump it into the toilet and flush it away, saying "bye-bye poop", and then I gave him an M&M)
07:05 PM Went into the bathroom and shut the door, then peed through his undies onto the floor while standing near the door
07:10 PM Peed on the floor in front of the fireplace
For the record, we tried to take him to the potty twice before bed, but he wouldn't go pee either time. Although he did willingly sit for 15 seconds...
POINTS OF FRUSTRATION:
1) The many false alarms (asking to go pee-pee or poop, then refusing to sit on the potty, or sitting on the potty for 10 seconds then declaring "All done!" and jumping up to run away)
2) The false alarms that we're sure were ploys to avoid naptime (every SINGLE time we tried to lay him down this afternoon he'd yell "pee-pee!" or "poop!")
3) Not being able to let him play on his own (the method requires you to be within a few feet of the trainee ALL DAY LONG, and we're so used to letting James just do his thing, playing with him while we do other things, and there is NO multitasking to be done using this training method)
4) The hiding (we feel bad that he needs to go and KNOWS he needs to go, but doesn't want to use the potty and doesn't want us to see him have an accident)
(Yes, he's eating a corndog on the living room floor. Don't judge. It's been a heck of a day.)
Honestly, the hardest part about today was his skipped naptime and the battle we had in trying to get him to take one. He was exhausted, we were exhausted, yet he just wouldn't give in. That was when we made our second pot of coffee and did some serious breathing. And while we know we have a long way to go with him still, there are a few things that are spurring us forward and keeping our hopes up about this 3-day process:
POINTS OF PROGRESS:
1) He tells us when he needs to pee-pee or poop (he just doesn't want to go in the potty yet)
2) He will go into the bathroom to pee-pee (just not in the potty yet, rather, he pees on the floor through his undies)
3) He apologizes when he dirties his undies
4) He was willing to sit on the potty when asked at the end of the day before bed
Tomorrow is another day. And some kids get it on Day 2. Please hope along with us that James is one of those kids. For now, I'm going to bed!